don’t you want me – the bachelor: week 6

Hey guys, hope you had a great weekend and are ready to dissect this week’s episode of The Bachelor. I was pleasantly surprised that we got back on track with two rose ceremonies this week! The drama certainly hasn’t let up, and doesn’t seem to be slowing down anytime soon, so let’s get to it!

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My Takeaways

  1. This episode marked the emergence of a person who many viewers had almost forgotten was on the show, Leah.  After Caila received her second one-on-one date, Leah began a downward spiral of jealousy and self-doubt. She spent most of her time on the group date sulking over the fact that Ben wasn’t paying attention to her, due to his dating 6 other women, apparently forgetting the fact that that is the ENTIRE DESIGN OF THE SHOW. During the cocktail party, she spent her individual time with Ben talking about one of the other women, Lauren B. I take back what I said earlier about Leah forgetting that the entire design of the show was to have one person date multiple people because it is clear from this conversation that she has never watched the show before.  Can anyone tell me a time when a contestant spending their time with the Bachelor talking about the other women has gone well? Anyone?

    Besides the misguided topic of this conversation, the entire exchange between Leah and Ben during the nighttime portion of the group date was strange. I’m about 75% certain that Leah saying “Lauren B” when Ben asked her to clarify who she was talking about was dubbed in post production. At first, I thought that this whole exchange was producer manipulated, and that Leah was actually talking about Olivia. However, what she did after the date, made me doubt this original theory.

    After Amanda receives the group date rose and the women go back to the hotel, Leah decides that Ben still doesn’t know her. She “breaks the rules” and goes to Ben’s room to continue to talk to him. This move has had some success, but never when you spend your extra time with the Bachelor talking about the other women. (PSA: If you are going to go on the Bachelor, please watch the show first and don’t commit these cardinal sins of ‘The Bachelor’-dom.) During this conversation, the cameras show a full cut of Leah saying Lauren B.’s name as the woman who is different with Ben than the other women, therefore debunking my producer intervention theory. I’m still sure it was dubbed, but now I’m thinking it was just for clarity’s sake.

    Ben isn’t feeling the constant Lauren B bashing (because he obviously loves her), and sends Leah home.

  2. After the group date, Olivia and Emily go on their two-on-one date: a picnic on an island during a hurricane. I have to admit that I thought this pairing was a slam dunk for Olivia. There is such a track record on this show of the “villain” coming out on top one too many times.  I guess Olivia getting the group date rose last week was her last victory, because she certainly didn’t win anything on this date.

    During their one-on-one time, Olivia talks a lot about herself and tells Ben that she loves him. After she says this, she goes in for the kiss, which Ben doesn’t deny, but he certainly doesn’t let it linger.  This was my first indication that there was trouble brewing in Olivia’s paradise.

    Ben talks to Emily while her hair is attempting to eat her face.  It actually was pretty humorous and something that everyone not named Beyonce can relate to. Emily tells Ben that she wants to continue growing with him through her experience on the show, but receives no kiss that we see.

    When all three are back and seated on the beach, Ben takes the rose and asks to speak with Olivia.  I thought this was a pretty bad sign for Emily, but once again I was wrong.  Ben tells Olivia that he appreciates her being honest with him about her feelings, and he has to be honest in return, and not give her the rose.  He strands Olivia on what looks to be a freezing cold beach in the middle of a hurricane. What a winner. (I kid, Ben is quite the charmer).

    No matter how you feel about Olivia’s time on the show, I think you have to feel for her in that moment.  I don’t know what it would be like to tell someone that you love them, and then later that same day be dumped by them.  For these women, there is no additional closure, no drunk texts (although that is probably a good thing), no asking your friends “what did he say about me”. Its “Let me walk you out”, or in this case let me leave you on an island, and maybe we can talk about this during “The Women Tell All”. It can’t be easy.

  3. Ben is tired from his emotionally trying week, so there is no cocktail party.  During the rose ceremony, Lauren H goes home, pretty unsurprisingly.  I hope this means we can just start calling Lauren B, Lauren.The big thing of interest in the last section of the show was the promo for the rest of the season! OMG!

    From what I can see Ben tells two people he loves them, becoming the first Bachelor or Bachelorette I can remember to even tell anyone they are in love on camera before the final rose. There also is a very confusing montage where Ben is discussing his love for the two women, sobbing, and saying he can’t see his life without either of them.  There’s a classic Harrison quote of “What you’re contemplating now, that would absolutely change everything.”  The strangest thing to me however was Ben saying, “I have to say goodbye to a woman that doesn’t deserve it, it doesn’t feel right and this is the biggest mistake I’ve made. I want to keep her in my life, I don’t want to say good bye because thats how much I love her. I’m about to get on one knee and ask a woman to marry me. Unfortunately, I just love somebody else….more.” AND THEN HE MAKES A PHONE CALL!  Say WHAT?!?! This is the most I’ve been tempted by spoilers all season, but I’m standing firm. I can’t wait to know what happens, though!

Favorite Tweets

Best Dressed
Becca and Caila were my style stars this week. They were killing it!

  1. Becca’s Romper – Bahamas Arrival

    Becca’s romper is Show Me Your Mumu and can be found here.

  2. Caila’s Bikini

    I liked Caila’s bikini from the front, but when she turned around and I saw that hot pink tassel I was in love.

  3. Becca’s Crocheted Crop Top

    Becca continues looking effortlessly cool by pairing a crocheted crop top with a leather pencil skirt.

What did you guys think of this episode? Any guesses on what is going to happen in that final rose ceremony? I’d love to hear, in the comments or @third_and_girl on Twitter.


from afar.

Possibly an unpopular opinion, but I thought this week’s episode was kind of a dull one.  I didn’t really have any “hot takes” while watching, so my thoughts are more like a recap this week.

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Thoughts on Episode 5
1. Amanda got the first one on one date, and I could see this coming since Ben made barrettes for her daughters. I really like Amanda, and I think Ben likes her too.

Ben starts the date by waking up the women at 4am.  This was probably my favorite part of the episode due to Lauren H’s retainer, an unclaimed weave (and the fact that Ben knew it was a weave), and Ben affectionately saying good morning to “Jubs”. The two of them go on a hot air balloon date, and its pretty boring.  The only thing I got out of it was to ask myself whether Ben knows these facts about Mexico, or if a producer feeds them to him in the moment. Then they go on a picnic, and they both say “like” a lot.

At “dinner” (they never eat), they discuss Amanda’s previous marriage, which certainly doesn’t sound like a walk in the park. Amanda deserves a guy that wants to spend time with her and her daughters and DEFINITELY deserves one that is faithful to her.  I’m proud of her for putting herself and her girls first and recognizing that she deserves better.  Ben gives her the rose, and I think their relationship is one of the stronger ones on the show.

2. The big story of the group date was Ben sending Jubilee home.  On second viewing, something she said in one of her interviews really struck me.  She said , “Love seeing Ben, hate competing with 9 other girls for a man’s love”. I’m going to bet that the majority of these women feel the same way, but everyone deals with that stress in a different way.  Jubilee’s way was to shut down and put her guard up, something that isn’t going to be beneficial on a show where you need to be able to express your strong feelings for someone in a matter of months. Jubilee needed Ben to tell her she was special, and to give her that confidence that she was standing out amoung the other women. The look on her face when she realized that Ben wasn’t going to give her the validation she wanted at that moment, was truly heartbreaking.

After sending Jubs home, Ben gives Olivia the group date rose. I think he appreciated her desire to spend time with him, when that is what he wasn’t feeling from Jubilee.  That being said, it definitely didn’t help with the other women’s feelings toward her.

3. At the rose ceremony Amanda, Olivia and Lauren H have roses, Lauren receiving hers after a super boring date. Jojo and Lauren B tiptoe around telling Ben that they are falling in love with him.  Its refreshing that they are not comfortable saying they are in love with a man they barely know.

Then the big comment of the episode happens. Olivia makes the misguided allusion to Teen Mom when Amanda was discussing her childcare situation while she was away. Immediately, you can see in Olivia’s face that what she meant to get across was not what was received by the other women.  I don’t think she was trying to be malicious towards Amanda, but instead was attempting to make a joke, in poor taste.  I give Amanda and Olivia both a lot of credit for having a discussion about the comment instead of talking behind each other’s backs.

Emily uses her one on one time to talk to Ben about feeling disrespected by Olivia. Her time is interrupted by Olivia. Ben uses some of his time with Olivia to fish for information. She gives up nothing, saying that everything in the house is fine. Next comes a montage of girls talking about Olivia, something I’m sure was prompted by Ben or the producers.

The rose ceremony is about to begin and Ben asks to speak with Olivia. Then the dreaded “To be continued”…..UGH.

Tweets of the Week




 Best Outfits

1.ben ep 5
An unexpected favorite look was Ben’s from his date with Amanda.  I love a good puffer vest, and I like it paired with the checkered shirt. (My screen grabs may be a bit clearer, but I didn’t catch the best Ben face, #unimpressed).

2.lauren b ep 5 2

Lauren B’s white two piece maxi was so chic.  I loved the tasteful crop, as well as the high slit.
3.amanda episode 5

Amanda’s super casual “girl chat” look was how I wish I looked when I’m lounging.  She looks so cute in a checkered flannel with a bright headband. I look not so cute in a “Nap Queen” sweatshirt, messy bun, and pants if you’re lucky.

What were your thoughts on the episode? Do you think Ben is going to take Olivia’s rose away?  Let me know in the comments!

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beautiful love.

I swear, I will eventually get these Bachelor posts up on Tuesday. My recreational football league on Tuesday nights is over (we made it to the championship, but we’ll just leave it at that. We most definitely did not lose 72-0), so I can devote my Tuesdays to rewatching the Bachelor and writing up my thoughts.

Thoughts on Episode 4


  1. I think that Lauren B is our clear front runner, and she’s starting to become my favorite. The way that Ben nuzzled into her during their one on one time, it was obvious that he was comfortable with her.  Lauren B has a joking tone when she talks about the process that is “The Bachelor” which I think endears her to Ben, and to me. For example, she doesn’t use any of the “I’m unlovable” or “I’m scared to open up” cliches when asked how she feels about falling in love. Instead, she laughingly says “Its terrifying”. And that’s true, it totally is. Letting your guard down and giving someone the power to potentially hurt you IS terrifying. I just enjoy the way Lauren B says it, as if its the most obvious thing in the world (because it is).
  2. Ben and Becca’s date was perfect for two hopeless romantics (say what you will about Becca being unable to love, but girlfriend has been on two of these shows). I could’ve done without the awkward fake proposal by Ben though, there was a serious look of panic in Becca’s eyes. The two of them seemed like they had a lot of fun together, and I thought their discussion about Becca’s virginity was lighthearted and easy.  Neither of them seemed uncomfortable with the topic, and even though they are on different ends of that situation, they seemed to bond over their shared values, even if they choose to express them in different ways.
  3. I really can’t call these my thoughts on the episode if I don’t talk about Olivia.  I try my hardest to only say positive things about people here, because this isn’t meant to be a negative space.  Man, though, the editors are really making it hard to like, relate to, or really to do anything besides wish Olivia would go home. She didn’t seem like herself the entire episode, although I’m not sure if this was because of her performance on the group date (where she was clearly uncomfortable), or if this behavior had started earlier. She just seemed to be acting erratically, perhaps because she was being influenced by producers to do something she normally wouldn’t. I got a sense of nervous energy around her. Her actions at the rose ceremony were also bizarre, stealing him from Jennifer after 3 minutes (supposedly), and then telling Jojo that she told Ben she loved him, and the feelings were reciprocated. The uncomfortableness that she was feeling from the group date seemed to snowball into the rose ceremony. However, the editors’ pièce de résistance in the “Olivia is the villain this season” plan was her voiceover during the rose ceremony that ended with Ben “saving the best for last”.

Tweets of the Week




Favorite Outfits

  1. Lauren B’s deep V top and jeans
    Lauren B
  2. Becca’s white dress (which is available in black here, thank you Becca’s twitter)
  3. Jennifer’s rose ceremony dress

Sorry for such poor quality on those screen grabs, I’m going to research how to make them clearer this week!

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The Bachelor is one of my favorite shows of all time. It has become almost a cult classic recently, and nothing is more fun than sitting around with my friends on a Monday night and dissecting everything about the show.  I wanted to share some of my thoughts on the show with you here.

My Thoughts on Episode 3 of the Bachelor

  1. This episode seemed like it should be titled, “Most Dramatic Rose Ceremony Ever: Rise of the Mean Girl”. Between the attacks on Jubilee, and the biting comments behind Olivia’s back (and I’m not an Olivia apologist), I was slightly uncomfortable with the front that these women were putting forward to the camera.
    Did anyone else think that all of the attacks on Jubilee seemed completely unfounded? Maybe as someone who also expresses their anxiousness through sarcastic comments, I just see where she was coming from with her “anyone else want to go on this date?” comment.  I have to guess that then continuing to confront her, in the guise of it being a “conversation”, isn’t going to win you any points with the guy you’re all trying to date.  What do I know though, I haven’t been on this show three times.
  2. I think Ben is really into Lauren B, who I also like as she seems to be completely down to Earth and aware that she might be one of the most ridiculous shows of all time. She’s frequently sarcastic, which I can definitely appreciate. In my eyes, Ben looks at her in a completely different way then he looks at the other girls, and it was really telling when he wanted to tell her something that he hadn’t talked about with anyone yet.  He didn’t seem to be telling her because the producer’s asked him to, but because he really wanted this girl that he was falling for to know the real him, and the things he was struggling with. (Sidebar: Why did Ben’s pastor call him to tell him about his dad and not his mom or another family member? That being said, I’m very happy that Mr. Higgins is doing well).
  3. I’m really proud of Lace for removing herself from the show.  I felt like her insecurities were getting the better of her in some of her interactions with Ben, and I can only imagine how tiring and taxing that is. It takes a big person to realize that something that might make you (in)famous may just not be the best thing for you, especially when a babe soda like Ben Higgins is involved.  All that being said, can’t wait to see Lace in paradise.

Favorite Tweets from Monday



My Favorite Bachelor Themed Items

1. most dramatic rose ceremony
I love a good tongue and cheek reference to the ridiculousness of The Bachelor.  You can get this glass perfect for your Monday night sipping here.

2. bach and chill
This is pretty much my dream life.  You can buy this here. bach yoga pants
I’m sure many of you have seen this shirt around.  I couldn’t not include it though, it is a classic, and pretty much encapsulates my Monday nights. As far as I know, if you use the code “BACHELOR” at check out, you can get 10% off and 10% of the profits go to an animal shelter.  So get a great shirt, and help man’s best friend by clicking here.

What are your thoughts on Episode 3 of the Bachelor? I’d love to hear them!